So, a few weeks ago I took a deep breath, gathered my self together and began potty training.
It’s a phrase that strikes terror into many parents, that moment you know you’ll be at the mercy of ‘accidents’ both big and small and the very worst – in public! I decided to take the plunge after our holiday in France where Arthur had run around without a nappy and started to use the potty. Carpe Diem – so to speak.
I decided not to use pull-ups and instead just embrace the idea of accidents without a safety net. Besides, it seemed to be more likely he would pick it up quicker if he felt what it was like to have wet pants. First up the equipment, we were lucky enough to try the Pourty potty and Flexi-Fit toilet trainer seat which have been fantastic. I also invested in lots and lots of pairs of pants.
If I have one piece of advice it’s to bulk buy cheap pants – buy more than you think and keep them in every bag possible. Then, if as was the case one morning, you have a rather massive, frighteningly defiant ‘accident’ you can just wrap it up and throw the whole lot away!
The Pourty potty was great to use because it meant you could quickly and easily pour out the contents without getting it all over the potty. It’s also nice and high so easy to sit on and we had no problems with dribbles over the edge. You can get a two-piece potty but having just the one piece makes it even easier and practical to use. Some pottys are a little more tricky for boys to use and bits don’t always go were they are supposed to but the Pourty minimises this as it has a nice wide seat.
Better still was the Pouty Flexi-Fit toilet trainer seat. Arthur loves it because it makes him feel all grown-up and he often asks to sit on it even if there’s nothing coming out! It’s easy to fit and works on all the toilets I’ve tried. It also has splash guard above and below so feels a bit more hygienic too. I like the fact it feels so stable and I think that played an important role in Arthur feeling confident – there was no wobble so he felt secure and safe and not like he was going to fall down the big toilet. I’m no expert but judging by how much he likes sitting on it I’m guessing it’s pretty comfy too!
All in all potty training has not been as terrifying as I first thought. I guess it’s as much about us as parents being able to let go. Not only of our babies and allow them to grow but also a little of the control we have over every situation. Once I’d realised this it became easier and the more relaxed I was the easier it became.
There have been a few accidents along the way and a lot of me saying : “ Are you sure, do you want to just try”. But we got there and now Arthur asks to go to the toilet or on the potty and wears his big boy pants with pride.
My potty training top tips
- Buy lots of pants – bulk buy ones you won’t mind throwing away
- Let go a little – I really think the odd accident spurs them on and means they are actually being potty training and not relying on you to keep asking
- Really can’t recommend the Pourty potty and Flexi-seat trainer enough, simple, practical and easy to use. No fuss, no complicated bits and comfortable for little bottoms too
- Remember to pack spare trousers and pants. Might seem obvious but after years of remembering nappies I did forget a couple of times
- Save pull-ups for night time and naps – again a personal preference but removing that safety net worked for us.
- Loads of praise – again seems obvious but Arthur was so proud when he’d been that it definitely encouraged him to keep going
- Ignore accidents – don’t focus on them or fuss, even if it’s to comfort them. I found it made Arthur concerned and worried, just brush it off (or scrub it off!) and move on quickly.